Be bold, be brave, ask for what you need.

Do you ask for what you need?

I know. It seems such a bold thing to do, right? Yep, it is, but we should do every single day in every single moment.

So, why don’t we?

Maybe we’re afraid we’ll be told no. That’s a possibility. Then again, it’s nothing we haven’t heard before. We can handle hearing no, don’t you think?

Let’s dig deeper. Could it be that we don’t say what we need because we expect people to know without us having to tell them? Uh-oh. I’m definitely guilty of this one, particularly with my husband.

Go even deeper. Do we keep our needs to ourselves, because we can control that form of disappointment? Let’s face it. Disappointment hurts, but like with anything, it’s much less scary if we have some control over it.

When we control the disappointment, we also control the outcome. We can choose to push that person away when they don’t give us what we need. Then, the best part of all, we can feel righteous about it, because we knew it was going to happen.

Wow. I’m really going there this morning, aren’t I?

It really all comes down to fear, doesn’t it? Let’s let the fear and the need to control go. Be bold, be brave, and ask for what you need. Hey, you might actually get it!

I’ll start… *Gulp* Here I go… I’ll have to tell you how it ends up later. 🙂

Published in: on April 22, 2011 at 8:11 am  Comments (2)  

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  1. Nice post, Destiny.

    We at least need to tell God what we need. Sometimes we must tell others what we need, especially if we need it from them. As you say, being silent affects the outcome. I’d rather be disappointed by a denial than to know I might have received what I needed if I’d asked.

    I guess you have pinned it down correctly by mentioning fear as the culprit. Some of us hear voices from the past discouraging us. We need to forget the past and move on. It can happen. Want it badly enough and fear will be crushed by hope. Blessings to you, Destiny…

  2. You stated that so well, Carol! Many blessings right back to you!


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